sex or a movie

Okay, so maybe this subject is taboo but I sort of have a feeling that others might relate so here goes nothing…

My husband and I have what I would call a healthy sex life (I have a whole philosophy on that which I am not ready to blog about, one step at a time) however finding the time to be together can be, well, challenging.

So yesterday from the moment we kissed goodbye for work there was a lingering moment and words spoken that would have sent us right back inside the house if you know what I mean except for the fact it was 7:05am, I was late for work and the boys were late for school and well, life took precedence.

Later that day, at the soccer field, it was a beautiful fall afternoon- the air was cool, the sky was a brilliant blue, we laid ever so romantically on a big blanket while the boys had their practice- but hey, there was like 200 kids running around and we were in the middle of a church park!

Next, we went to out to dinner with my parents and from across the table I could see it in his eyes and his smile that he would like to find a little quiet corner somewhere- not gonna happen.

So we get home and the routine begins: help the boys with homework, make lunches for tomorrow, get them bathed, showered, teeth brushed, teeth flossed, hair dried, books read, prayers said, heads kissed, lights off and I run down stairs to find Chip.

It wasn’t the sight of Chip lounging on the sofa that told me no, it was what was on the television screen- I saw Tom Cruiz in a kimono weilding a sword, with one glance I knew, can you feel me ladies?! There is something about movies like The Last Samari, Braveheart, and Gladiator that just speak to the heart of a man.

(on a side note my friend writes really cool movie insights at movieglimpse.com)

Anyway, I knew I lost him at hello, just to be sure I reminded him that it was after 10 and I had to get up before 5 (I know, I know, real romantic right?!) But Samari it was, I could see it in his eyes.

The cool part about this is a year agp I would have totally taken this as rejection, in fact, I would have probably withdrew for a couple of days in a mopey funk- but we are in a totally different place now, we’re seeking to understand each other and really love each other and I could just see that he needed that down time (in ancient Japan…and I don’t care what they say Chip and I agree Tom should have got an Oscar for that role) So I went to bed happy, and hey- there’s always tonight!